Robert McNamara, former Secretary of Defense during the 1960s, was the subject of a documentary film called The Fog of War. The title derives from the military concept of the "fog of war" depicting the difficulty of making decisions in the midst of conflict. The same challenge happens to divorcing couples. The ‘fog of war’ can affect decision making leading to an escalation of … [Read more...] about What Does it Mean To Have a Child-Centered Divorce?
If you are contemplating a divorce and keeping your financial [and other] affairs private matters to you, you need to know how different divorce processes work. You can choose a divorce process where your private information becomes part of the public record for anyone to review, where every court hearing is open to the public to attend, or you can choose a divorce process that will keep your … [Read more...] about The Importance of Privacy in Divorce
If you are like most of us, simply thinking about the divorce process can cause stress! Whether it is money, custody, visitation, providing for two households, or preparing for upcoming celebrations like birthdays and graduations, divorce generally means a new normal. Luckily, there are some simple ways to decrease stress: Do your Pre-Divorce Work. We know you have not taken the … [Read more...] about 8 Things to Know Before Getting A Divorce
Peace is not generally the first feeling you think of when thinking about divorce. But the disagreements and conflict that got you to where you are today do not have to dictate how you travel to tomorrow. We know that even though your marriage might be ending, your family isn’t. Finding peace in your divorce process is the surest way to ensure long-term peace for you and … [Read more...] about Is a Peaceful Divorce Possible?
In ancient times, Greek plays almost always had a chorus of actors who would comment, in one voice, on the action of the play, the characters, and sometimes predict action coming in the next scene. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the Greek Chorus would “comment on the moral issue that is raised by the dramatic action or to express an emotion appropriate to each stage of … [Read more...] about The Greek Chorus of Divorce
The decision to end a marriage is rarely, if ever, an easy one. When the decision is finally made, it often feels like the only option is to permanently cut all ties with your ex-spouse. And although this might be an option for couples without children, it often is not possible for couples with minor or adult children. The simple fact is, dissolving the marriage … [Read more...] about Why Is a Post-Divorce Relationship Necessary?
The holidays can be difficult, even in the best of times. Co-parenting can be particularly trying. Conflicts commonly arise related to when and how the children will spend their holiday time. In ordinary times, a good parenting plan is designed to mitigate these conflicts. However, a good parenting plan likely has not anticipated parenting during a pandemic such … [Read more...] about How to Manage a Divorce, The Holidays and COVID-19
Parents who divorce face the reality that two homes will be trying to meet budgets on the same income that once supported just one. The children will go back and forth between these two homes spending significant time in each home. Best outcomes for the children dictate they should feel comfortable at each home and believe that mom’s house is their house and that dad’s house is their house. It is … [Read more...] about How Does Child Support Work?