“We are in a tricky spot because I want a divorce and my husband does not.” [We do not mean this is a gender specific concern. We have heard it from both husbands and wives. This is just an actual recent example of the situation]. As you can imagine, wife’s concern not an unusual circumstance. We often get some version of this comment from spouses seeking a consultation. For most family law … [Read more...] about I Want a Divorce – My Spouse Doesn’t
Collaborative Divorce
The Peaceful Divorce Process
A step-by-step approach to peacefully restructuring your family Divorce doesn’t need to create damaging emotional conflict. Your divorce process can actually improve your relationships! If your goal is to create a positive future without conflict and pain to you, your children or your grandchildren, the divorce process you choose will make all the difference. The collaborative … [Read more...] about The Peaceful Divorce Process
What Does it Mean To Have a Child-Centered Divorce?
Robert McNamara, former Secretary of Defense during the 1960s, was the subject of a documentary film called The Fog of War. The title derives from the military concept of the "fog of war" depicting the difficulty of making decisions in the midst of conflict. The same challenge happens to divorcing couples. The ‘fog of war’ can affect decision making leading to an escalation of … [Read more...] about What Does it Mean To Have a Child-Centered Divorce?
The Importance of Privacy in Divorce
If you are contemplating a divorce and keeping your financial [and other] affairs private matters to you, you need to know how different divorce processes work. You can choose a divorce process where your private information becomes part of the public record for anyone to review, where every court hearing is open to the public to attend, or you can choose a divorce process that will keep your … [Read more...] about The Importance of Privacy in Divorce
Is a Peaceful Divorce Possible?
Peace is not generally the first feeling you think of when thinking about divorce. But the disagreements and conflict that got you to where you are today do not have to dictate how you travel to tomorrow. We know that even though your marriage might be ending, your family isn’t. Finding peace in your divorce process is the surest way to ensure long-term peace for you and your … [Read more...] about Is a Peaceful Divorce Possible?
The Greek Chorus of Divorce
In ancient times, Greek plays almost always had a chorus of actors who would comment, in one voice, on the action of the play, the characters, and sometimes predict action coming in the next scene. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the Greek Chorus would “comment on the moral issue that is raised by the dramatic action or to express an emotion appropriate to each stage of the … [Read more...] about The Greek Chorus of Divorce
What Does It Mean to Be A Family Peacemaker?
Visiting with my father-in-law recently, our conversation turned to a recollection from my litigation past. Time and resources are always at a premium in the courtroom, and judges can lose patience with litigants whom they perceive as unreasonable or wasting the court’s time. This couple on this day, 12 – 15 years ago, rang that bell. They were standing in front of the court using their time to … [Read more...] about What Does It Mean to Be A Family Peacemaker?
Dealing with the Fear in a Divorce
Most of the emotions that we see during the course of the breakdown of a marriage and the divorce process boil down to fear. I do not say that from my own expertise but from what I have heard over and over again from my colleagues in the mental health profession. The first victim of any marriage that is failing is communications. As communications break down, people can no longer successfully … [Read more...] about Dealing with the Fear in a Divorce
