Cicero said: “The litigious spirit is more often found with ignorance than with knowledge of law.”
Most simply defined mediation is facilitated negotiations. Mediation gives the client the control over decision making. The mediator is a “neutral” to the negotiations who acts to break impasses and to act as a catalyst focusing clients on their values and interests.
Mediation is both a science and an art.
Mediation is the art of:
- Facilitating discussion without being part of the conversation.
- Listening to what is and is not being said and making it heard.
- Understanding the dynamics of disagreement and how to go beyond it.
- Going beyond impasse to agreement, beyond agreement to settlement.
Mediation is the science of:
- Analyzing the context of a dispute and breaking it down to the manageable.
- Discovering value hidden within content of negotiations.
- Guiding negotiations and creating options.
- Managing information and resources during the process.
We offer the following to help you better determine your best next steps:
Divorce Education Kit
The Family Peacemaker Divorce Education Kit is designed to help families in crisis begin exploring divorce process options. Whether you and your spouse have agreed upon the appropriate next steps or not, this kit will provide valuable, up-to-date information on options and resources to consider, including:
- Divorce Preparation Check List
- Divorce Process Options Matrix
- Glossary of Family Law Terms
- Local Divorce Resources
- Divorce Process Related Articles
- Divorces Child Issues Related Tip Sheets
The information contained in this education kit is not intended to replace the advice of a legal, mental health or financial professional. For more information or to set up a free, one hour consultation, email or call 714-671-8631.
Divorce Options Workshop
The Divorce Options workshop provides an invaluable service for those facing the complexities of divorce. Contemplating divorce can be overwhelming. Most are unaware of the pros and cons each process option offer. This workshop is designed to education on divorce processes most supportive of the family and children.
In this workshop, you’ll explore the legal, financial, family and personal issues of divorce in a logical, yet compassionate way. With the guidance of a team of legal, financial and mental health professionals, you can expect to gain a greater understanding of the confusing and overwhelming divorce process options. Divorce Options provides explanations of the differences between self representation, mediation, Collaborative Divorce and litigated divorce.
Divorce Options Workshops are held throughout California. There is a small cost for the 4-hour workshop. Dates and locations of Divorce Options Workshops are listed below or can be found at https://www.cpcal.com/divorce-options-workshop/.
Attorney Bart Carey offers free consultations in which we meet with both parties to assess your situation and give options to help your family reach the intended resolution. We almost always recommend that both parties attend the first consultation. It can help to ensure that you both get the information at the same time.
Even though we recommend you are both present for the initial consultation, we are more than happy to set up a one-on-one consultation if you don’t think your spouse would be willing or available!