Peace is not generally the first feeling you think of when thinking about divorce. But the disagreements and conflict that got you to where you are today do not have to dictate how you travel to tomorrow. We know that even though your marriage might be ending, your family isn’t. Finding peace in your divorce process is the surest way to ensure long-term peace for you and your family.
If you aren’t feeling peace right now, you’re not alone. At the outset of 99/100% of all separations/divorces, trust is at the lowest point and miscommunications are at the highest. As you may have experienced, lack of trust (whether justified or not), unaddressed, can ‘snowball’ furthering poor communications, poor behaviors and increase fears. Despite these emotions, peace is attainable.
Believe Peace is Possible!
We invite you to consider a different type of divorce process… a more peaceful divorce. Even if your family has been broken by infidelities, abuse, the loss of a child, addictions, the special needs of a loved one, peace is possible.
For decades, mediators have been helping families dissolve their marriages without becoming adversarial or ever going to court… all for a whole lot less money and time than the traditional litigation model through mediation, one of the most well recognized non-court Consensual Dispute Resolution processes.
Mediation is facilitated negotiation which give clients the control over decision making. The mediator is a specially trained “neutral” professional who helps clients negotiate a mutually acceptable agreement focusing on their values and interests.
How Peace is Possible
Your mediator or mediation team is specially trained to help you navigate your divorce and future family relationships. Your mediator helps you develop family agreements that will:
- Restore Peace: Establish goals that restore civility, reason, and common sense for the family
- Thoughtful Guidance: Collaborate to develop mutually agreeable/beneficial solutions
- A Commitment to Respect: Learn to offer grace and tolerance to all in the family
- Restore Dignity: Be encouraged to honor your personal values and truth
The mediation process actually guides you and your spouse to develop more peaceful, durable, accountable goals and solutions.
But Does it Really Work?
According to U.S. divorce statistics, nearly 90 percent of mediated divorce cases settle successfully. But don’t take my word for it… this email from our former mediation client says it best!
My ex and I are still very close and see each other once a week. Sometimes we have dinner with our child, and sometimes my girlfriend will join our dinner. It’s hard to believe we divorced 7 years ago. My girlfriend has a similar background to my ex, and they have become good friends. Thanks to this process, we enjoy a very healthy relationship.